Is It Selfish To Focus On Yourself?

Is it selfish to focus on yourself? You should focus on yourself with self-care to avoid burnout.

You hear it all the time...

  • You need to take care of yourself.
  • You're too burned out and need some YOU time. 
  • You can't forget about YOU


Taking time out for yourself means taking time away from everything else... like your career or your family...

Realizing that, you feel as though there just isn't enough time in the day, and eventually you'll get around to doing something you like that makes you happy and makes you feel refreshed.

And then...

it never happens...

You spend all your time waiting to take care of yourself... meanwhile you're in complete burnout mode.

You cannot pour from an empty cup... make sure you take time for yourself! @warmlyrustic

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Self-care is so important! You need to regularly schedule it into your lifestyle or it won't happen (or won't happen often). And lets face it.. you can't pour from an empty cup. You NEED something fulfilling in your life. Something that makes you feel good and gives you purpose. Something that makes all the other stressors of life worth the effort and time you put into them. 

Taking some time out to care for yourself doesn't need to cost you! ​

Ideas to take care of yourself:​

  • Manicure/Pedicure
  • Schedule in sleeping hours
  • Schedule in physical exercise (even if you have kids hanging on you, or are talking with clients on the phone while embracing a few yoga poses or lifting some light weights at your desk)
  • Meditate for 10-20 minutes when you first wake up and right before going to sleep at night
  • Celebrate even the littlest victories (even if that only means you washed/dried your laundry AND put it away in the same day)
  • Surround yourself with positive people
  • Laugh... as much as possible...
  • Engage in a hobby (do something fun)
  • Maintain a healthy lifestyle, filled with quality foods and free from toxins
  • Delegate little tasks when you're able to (even if it doesn't get done your way)
  • Don't stress over change... often changes can be blessings in disguise without us realizing it
  • Schedule in some time outside... whether you go hiking, for a walk, lounge in the sand at the beach, or just sit on a picnic table somewhere.
  • Schedule in dedicated time for work, family, and YOU
  • Schedule in some time for personal development
  • Set little goals for the day/week
  • Avoid multi-tasking
  • Learn the importance of saying "NO"

When all else fails, have a snack, or indulge in eating some feelings.

Not that you want to hear about food when talking about not losing your sanity, but I can't help but to share this with you!

I absolutely LOVE the cookbook Clean Eating with a Dirty Mind because it takes all my foodie guilty pleasures and translates them into healthy recipes that indulge my emotional eating without hurting my body. 

Their recipe for red velvet cupcakes was absolutely incredible, and toddler approved.​

For me... sometimes just taking the time in the morning to put on makeup and get dressed, even when I work from home on the phone or behind the computer and no one is going to see me. Just taking the time and effort spent on myself is often enough to make my day go smoother and keep my spirits up.


Did you notice that stop multitasking and saying no were on that list?

Too often we spread ourselves too thin, wanting to do everything all the time... thinking we need to do more than one thing at a time in order for anything to get done.

My friend, that is a quick way to fast track yourself to total burnout!

​Saying no is often more important than saying yes. Granted, a firm "no" often leaves someone else hanging... and if you can help, by all means help if you feel compelled to. However, don't feel obligated to be everything to everyone all the time.

Stop the Multitasking​

I remember sitting in one of my psychology classes when I was working towards my undergraduate degree. My class had an in-depth conversation about the mental limitations that occur when you multitask.

​Turns out you cannot spend 100% of your brain capacity on numerous tasks. You can't even reach 100% capacity when focusing on numerous tasks... even ones you're not actively thinking about. Instead you have a percentage for each task, plus the percentage of brain power it takes to shift back and forth... you end up operating at a total of 60% or less, depending on the number of things you're trying to cram into completing at the same time. 

Instead, focus on one thing at a time for a shorter amount of time.​ You'll be much more efficient and won't worry so much about how you managed to get so little done.

Let's hear from you!!

​What do you do to destress and take care of yourself?

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About the author


I am a wife, a mom, and a curious mind. I run and www.EssentialOils.Life, and love living a relatively old fashioned lifestyle with an extensive background in research and analysis. I enjoy creating things, cooking, teaching, personal development, and natural preventative health. I'm also a huge information nerd and love to share my findings with others.

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