Do you sometimes feel so enraged with anger you literally can’t see straight?
You know… that moment when you feel that vibrational change resonating throughout your body that tingles up from your core, out each of your extremities simultaneously. That radiating energy rapidly, yet slowly, radiates up the inside of your head through your spine, turning everything you see to a grayish red color, and sometimes turning off all your common sense, ability to hold your tongue, and sometimes even your memory. You take a step back from your body and watch yourself unleash on the offender.
And life pauses. You have no idea why you yelled the way you did. You don’t know why that “Hulk smash” strength and mentality took over so quickly. Before you know it, its done and over with. You couldn’t do anything to stop it… didn’t even feel like you were in your own body for it. It just happened. Anger outburst… again…
What makes you so mad that you can’t control yourself?
Have you ever thought maybe your anger may have more to do with you than to what you’re mad at?
A Lesson About Anger
One day the Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. “You have no right teaching others,” he shouted. “You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake!”
The Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man, “Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?”
The young man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered, “It would belong to me, because I bought the gift.”
The Buddha smiled and said, “That is correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, then the anger falls back on you. You are then the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself.”
You will not be punished for your anger. You will be punished by your anger.
Overcoming Anger with Forgiveness
The first step to overcoming anger is forgiveness.
First, forgive the person that “caused” you to be angry. Second, forgive yourself.
Forgiving someone doesn’t mean you agree with them… it doesn’t mean the reason you’re angry is ok… it definitely doesn’t mean the cause to your anger wasn’t harmful or malicious… it doesn’t undo the hurt that was done.
Forgiveness does, however, free YOU.
Yes: Forgiveness benefits YOU… not anyone else.
It allows you to release that harbored resentment and continued anger that builds up inside. The moment you forgive (whether or not you tell the other person), you release that negative emotional charge within you. You become more peaceful from within, and it opens the door to further emotional healing.
Forgiving others and yourself empowers you to move forward and not allow one event to control the rest of your life. It reduces anxiety, moodiness, and mental blocks that prevent you from striving for success in self-improvement journeys and in professional endeavors. Forgiveness frees up the mental and emotional capacity for you to move forward and heal from the damage done.
Overcome Anger with Gratitude
You cannot be thankful and angry at the same time. It just doesn’t work.
Try it… think of something that makes you mad… do you feel that hateful energy start to swell up?
Now think of something you’re thankful for. That hateful feeling suddenly is replaced by fond, loving emotions… and maybe even a little smile.
Natural solutions to help reduce anger
When you start studying how your body interacts with different emotions, you’ll end up coming across some crazy woo voodoo about how emotions are stored in the physical body.
While it sounds preposterous, the more you study vibrational medicine the more it makes sense. If you’re not the studying type… try it out! We did and were shocked by some of our results using essential oils to help overcome a variety of emotional distress.
In my studies, I found information supporting how anger is stored in the liver. If you are feeling particularly angry (without provocation) at the same time every night, chances are you’re experiencing stored anger. Essential oils that support the liver include helichrysum, lemon, and geranium. Simply dilute them (1 drop per 1 tsp of carrier oil) and massage over your mid to lower back (over your liver) and on the arches of your feet (where the acupressure point is for your liver).
Diffusing citrus oils is a fantastic method to enhancing your mood to shift from anger to a more peaceful mood.
To help facilitate feelings of forgiveness:
Diluting ledum essential oil and applying over the front, left center of your ribs helps your body with detoxing those unforgiving feelings.
There are also a few pre-made essential oil blends containing citrus, frankincense, cypress, and mint oils that are great for diffusing or wearing as a nontoxic perfume/cologne while promoting lighter feelings of forgiveness.
To help you through increasing feeling grateful:
Dilute grapefruit and ledum essential oils and apply over the left side of your chest to help your body purge stored emotions preventing you from feeling thankful.
Geranium, lavender, orange and juniper essential oils are also fantastic for encouraging a grateful mindset!
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